I believe in Father Christmas

Eeeek! It’s only nearly here.

Feeling a bit festive now, helped by the fact that we’ve just been on a jolly lovely family outing – a steam train trip with Father Christmas.

And while, as adults, we know that the man in the red suit is actually someone’s relative with an itchy stick-on beard, it’s still utterly lovely to get swept up in the palpable excitement of any nearby young person.

I wonder how long we’ve got before our daughter stops believing – she’s a very logical young lady (unlike her mother) who has started to question quite a lot of the practicalities of the whole billions-of-presents-delivered-in-one-night concept.*

That time will inevitably come, but for the moment, it’s still this year and she’s still a firm believer.

And in a frankly frightening, confusing and unfair world, a little bit of belief that people – in red suits or not – can be good and kind is not a bad thing.

Whatever you’re up to this Christmas, whoever you’re with and whatever you believe, have a peaceful one and see you next year.

:: I believe in Father Christmas by Greg Lake

*Frightening how many lies we tell children while drumming into them how important it is to always tell the truth. I’m not sure how much distrust and/or damage we cause, but I’m hoping that ageing and common sense will overcome any feelings of betrayal. Either that, or the Christmas pud sixpences are going to have to pay for some substantial sessions on the couch as an adult.

Comforting sounds

In what I am trying very hard not to make a festive tradition, I spent Saturday in an MRI scanner.

Close to the Big Day as it may be, the 17^th of December was actually pretty good - three years ago I spent an hour-and-a-half on Christmas Eve in one. And while, in comparison to many other medical tests, I quite like an MRI, most people would agree that there are limits to what they will do to get out of the festive shopping.

But the hospital had tried their best – tinsel around the weighing scales and height chart for the pre-scan measurements – and while I turned up prepared with my own CD, I couldn’t resist the option of having the hospital’s choice of festive music piped into the protective headphones.*

First song on was East 17 Stay Another Day which for some reason made me chuckle a lot, until I remembered that the first rule of MRIs is NOT TO MOVE unless you want a stern, disembodied warning voice cutting through the plaintive warblings of Walthamstow’s finest.

It was only a short one this time - just 25 minutes on the gurney with a cage over my face so I didn’t have too long to stay still. Or ponder on the confusing and mildly inappropriate nature of ‘I saw mommy kissing Santa Claus.’

The aim was to get an up-to-date scan of my brain to see what damage is already there before I begin my Tecfidera (which, incidentally, I still don’t have as my MS nurse is still not well.)

The results will form a baseline reference guide to check whether the new drug is working by highlighting any patches of new activity which shouldn’t be there if the drug is doing its stuff. Obviously if I get a relapse which has clear physical impact, I will know about it, but this will also help track and gauge those sneaky instance of damage that indicate silent deterioration.

I’m fascinated by how the varying grey and white patches are interpreted on these scans. I’m also endlessly amazed by how magnets make pictures which make medical meanings.

I do ask my neuro to go through my scans to explain it all and I try to nod knowledgeably while he patiently does so, but as with a lot of things I can understand it for a while before it wafts off into the medisphere and I have to ask him to go through the whole thing again the next time I see him.

I suspect I am not alone in this so I don’t feel too bad. And I can always blame the big white and grey mush he sees on the screen before him.

The only thing I find mildly disappointing about the scan pictures is that my head is not actually sectioned liked the Numskulls with expanded areas for gin drinking, obscure song lyric retention and knowledge of useless trivia.

If I had an MRI scanner that’s what I’d programme it to do. And that would be worth 90 lying still minutes of anyone’s time.

:: Comforting sounds by Mew

*These, by the way, do not block out the repetitive clanking and banging of the magnets, they just dull it a bit. I do know people who drift off to sleep in the scanner – possibly understandable it’s warm, you have to stay still – but I’ve never managed it myself. Perhaps a skill to develop over the next few years as there will inevitably be more close encounters with the tube.

Suspicious minds

We had an away day at work recently.

Sigh.

The very phrase strikes fear. No matter where I've worked, they are the kind of thing that I look forward to with rather less enthusiasm than I reserve for my smear test.

It’s the ‘fun’ activities, the sneaky feeling that everyone else in the room knows a lot more than I do about their jobs, and the having to make slightly awkward small talk with scary-big-boss while simultaneously trying to work out how the flipping hot water dispenser works.

(As an aside, I’m still convinced this ability to get the hot water from the kettle type thing with its inexplicably complicated push button type opening is some sort of ongoing test within our working lives which will one day separate the truly capable from the utterly, utterly hopeless and we will be pay graded on our hot water prowess. Or lack thereof.)

And, with the addition of MS, there is the constant extra struggle to concentrate and contribute without slurring, stumbling or giving the vacant thousand yard stare. Always a good one to bring out at 3pm when scary-big-boss asks you a fundamental question which could determine your entire working future at this organisation.

Anyway, as it happened, it wasn’t bad at all. The fun activities were actually fun and we had the benefit of a truly inspirational speaker, Dave Heeley – or Blind Dave as he is known. Find out about his incredible achievements.

I also had the extra surprise of being given an award for my work. I’ll quickly add that this is not a post to brag. This is a post examining my unexpected reaction to this very pleasant surprise.

This is to wonder why my immediate thought was: “They’ve only given it me because I’m disabled and they feel sorry for me.”

And it’s not just the award. In self-doubting moments, I also wonder if I only got my job because I was helping up some kind of inclusion representation on their employee database.

When did I start becoming so suspicious? Or self-doubting? Is this what 12+ years of MS has done? How much disability prejudice have I internalised without being aware of it?

It’s a dangerous route to go down because it means that I’m not separating the ME from the MS. And yes, I’m aware that – for larger or smaller, depending on the day – MS and I do have some kind of parasitic symbiotic relationship, but I don’t want it to become the relationship that completely defines me.

So I’m trying my best to kick down the nagging voice of doubt and instead accept the recognition on face value. Perhaps it’s not pity, perhaps it’s actually that I’m not really terrible at my job.

Even though I will never work out the secret hot water pay and grading challenge.

:: Suspicious minds by Elvis Presley

Nothing but love

We went to a gig this week!

It deserves the exclamation mark because it’s a rare occurrence these days.

I used to go to quite a few during my university years, and when I worked on the paper we used to be sent free tickets so we could write reviews.

This resulted in some quite unexpected evenings out watching bands that you wouldn’t even pull out of Woollies bargain bin.

My friends are also all frighteningly musical and write and play their own stuff so I’m surrounded by talented people – both amazing and depressing for the tune-free lump that I am.

This week’s gig was with James (the band, not the Bond) and hubby and I went with friends and had a perfectly lovely time.

James were as good as ever and the whole thing was massively, massively uplifting.

The audience was mainly made up of people older than us (always a joy when you hit your 40s) who looked like they were having the time of their lives.

There really is nothing better than looking around at a gig and seeing the entire audience arms aloft, faces smiling, singing as one.

In the emotional armoury of life, music is an extraordinarily powerful weapon.

:: Nothing but love by James

Jump

I’ve been off the Avonex for two weeks now in preparation for my shiny/scary new tablets.

I’ve never really minded the needles or the injecting. I didn’t have too many side effects bar an occasional headache and a few more balance issues than usual the day after.

As a medication, I was okay with it.

Unfortunately however, it was not okay with me and didn’t do the job I needed it to. So it’s farewell to the needle and hello to the tablets.

I had it all planned out nicely, I’d start Tecfidera the week before Christmas on the lower dose then up it the week after the big day festivities.

Yes, I realise that new meds over the most wonderful the of the year is possibly not the best present I could give myself when you factor in the potential side effects and lack of medical availability.

But the cunning thinking in this plan was that I have two weeks off work and would rather suss out the side effects at home than in the office.

So all was well. That is until I called my MS nurse today to check on tablet delivery – and found she’s been off sick for two weeks, will be for the foreseeable and therefore can’t sign my prescription. 

Now obviously, she is allowed to be ill, but argh, so much for best laid plans.

However, there is absolutely nothing I can do about it, so there is no point in getting (as my mother would say) het up about it.

This is a relatively new experience for me, this roll with the punches outlook.

Left to my own devices, I am a planner and worrier. I have plans and back-up plans and just-in-case plans. And a plan B for all of those plans.

But I’ve noticed that increasingly over time I have started to let those tightly gripped reigns go a bit – I don’t know if it’s age or parenting (where very few things go to plan unless you sign up to the Gina Ford school of thinking) or laziness or MS.

I’m very aware that stressing myself out over things I have little control over is neither helpful or productive.

So when it comes to the drugs, I’m just going to have to accept and move on – while enjoying a few more festive tipples than I’d though I might. Always a silver lining.

:: Jump by Van Halen

Footnote: we have one part time MS nurse and one neurologist in the densely populated area in which I live. They are trying to care for thousands of people and it explains why the wait for my annual neurologist’s appointment has now increased to 18months. I’m also aware that I’m lucky to have this level of access and treatment options. However, it is still not enough - but that is a longer post for another time.